Greetings. I have the privilege to have a friend with a large family (which equals lots of experience) who is nearing the end of her hands-on parenting years. My dear friends “SB” consented to expound on some of her own hard-earned parenting lessons. She shares her wisdom for our benefit. I agree with her perspective, and am excited to have these pearls to share. I will be publishing her thoughts in four parts. Here is the 4th and final installment:
This comes down to taking to our Heavenly Father more about our concerns with a child than we talk with the child about the concerns. The child needs to hear more positive than negative from parents. This includes for the parents that we have the humility to come to the child with our own confession of sin against them when we have sinned against our child/children in any way, and being quick and sincere to ask for forgiveness. A parent needs to be even more concerned about his/her own sin in the home (or anywhere) than about the child’s sin.
Yes, we are to nurture, instruct, and correct our children, but we must have more focus on our own sin than on theirs, seeking Christ daily, asking Him to search us and cleanse us from our own sin and to convict us where we need to change so we repent and ask Him to change us. Correcting them and not dealing with our own sin will just bring damage to our relationships at home. We want to leave a lasting blessing and Christian legacy to our children of sincere devotion to Christ and a desire to truly change ourselves and obey Him more and more.
Thanks for reading this post, and I hope you can read all four in this series. Do you have any hindsight parenting advice to share? If yes, please leave a comment